There is a deepness and strength that I feel now that could only be the product of adversity. As a retired social worker—and a Christian, God is amazing, yes. He just would clean it and put a bandage on it for 9 months! He is also not a happy camper when it comes to his situation and is grumpy and irritable most of the day. Caring for yourself is part of being a good caregiver for another. If I can just keep facing forward and allowing room for God to work in my life, I believe this phase will pass.
Now I'm overweight, 123 , 5'. You must be a very strong woman to endure all the physical pain and emotional pain you are enduring! We were both driven and had a great friendship on so many levels. I want to be able to say that we lived the happiest lives possible. And then of course, I feel guilty because you didn't choose to be in this situation. I wish more caregivers would band together especially younger ones, even if it is anonymous, and talk openly about love and loss and how to cope and how it relates when you are not over 50! Everything revolves around dialysis and Dr. Michael, my stepson was a busy lawyer who lived 75 miles away…. Many caregivers are reluctant to share their difficulties for of making the person in their care feel worse.
He has sucked the life out of me and seems to want to drag me down into his bitterness. He has told me it was my imagination that I was experiencing neurological symptoms. Everything that could go wrong did. This is all for him. I feel sometimes that I have nothing else to give and have checked out emotionally.
I can identify you all of you. He is a diabetic and about four years ago, he also got a diabetic foot wound on his heel. He felt the bedspread, as if for the first time and noticed that the lace fringe around it had a snowflake pattern that he could make out with his fingertips. The post here are wonderful. I have horrible guilt, despite the fact that I did not intentionally become ill or do anything to cause it.
He was never meant to be a caregiver, I just wish I knew this 22 years ago. He has delirium from being in the hospital and keeps taking off all of his bandages and picking at the scabs. This too shall pass, but when it does you need to be able to go on and look back knowing you did what you could do. There are also online support groups for caregivers that can go a long way toward easing isolation. He was not the great orator, but he was excellent working a crowd. The dating site allows older adults to initially search the database for profiles of other singles without a membership.
The arthritis that he no longer felt in his hands and fingers had robbed much of his sense of touch. I haven't given up hope that I'll recover from this mysterious illness but, at the same time, I learned that continual denial just added mental suffering to the physical suffering. She didn't want the bike anyway, she told him. In the process of redefining our lives and starting over, we lost touch. I wish I were the one dying or dead.
Never forgo professional medical advice or delay in seeking medical attention because of something you have read on this blog or in any of the linked materials. I am not 100% comfortable seeking intimacy elsewhere, because I don't want to play with the emotions and feelings of another person. My sister from Olympia will mail this, six months after my funeral. It can seem pretty obvious to you that your spouse has assumed a new role as caregiver to an aging parent. He worried about going anywhere for any length of time. I just want to be away from him.
Limbo is no fun and no one deserves to be treated as lesser than. You cannot make everything all right; you cannot stop the pain your spouse is feeling. What I mean is that if one had a happy marriage that ended with one person dying, one might wonder if the person would approve of the person one is dating. I was in fact preparing to take an illness leave due to my inability to cope with what is already on my plate. I was able to function normally, I worked, still did all of the chores at home, e. I know I did long time ago.