I love my husband dearly. I am so lonely and miss the affection also. Again, keep applying prayer to your marriage. Find the place, pressure, and speed that feels best to her and keep doing it steadily. But if I express any disagreement or displeasure, not with her but with anybody or anything at all something is bugging me at work, or even being annoyed at the dog that becomes the no sex excuse for the next week or two.
Remember, she is the weaker vessel in all areas — mentally, emotional and physically. As a guy in the opposite scenario, I've always been helpful around the house, do most of the cooking and child care, and I'm always trying to do fun activities, trips, etc and get my wife to join me. I feel my heart breaking. We have not had sex for 4 months. Other than the sex my wife and I get along just fine so porn has been an effective and simple solution.
I feel like he doesnt love me and i feel unwanted i guess i never thought it could make a woman feel that way from her husband masterbating and until i read your post thank you by the way! I realized though some homeopathic hormone therapy that, within a month, I could be restored to my dashing self. I even reached a point where I said enough was enough with the blatant refusal and even disrespect. Go on a trip and start our sex life. She has been here now for over 2 years and it has only gotten worse. Being able to openly and honestly communicate about your feelings around this is going to be crucial. My wife doesn't even question where I go for hours- I suppose you get what you put in, and she doesn't give a damn either.
I just sat crying why couldn't he just do as people want and not hurt them for his rights, Be so much better. She never takes responsibility for anything as she was raised to believe she could do no wrong being the only daughter amongst four kids…and when I tell her I no longer trust her in the bedroom, or anything that implicates her for that matter, she tries to throw the same thing right back at me, which as anyone knows is generally a sign that the accused knows but is trying to shift blame. I spent an afternoon offering everything he had wanted for sixteen year including a sex life begging him to give up on a job bid. Surrender All of these options are viable and one is not necessarily better than the other. As someone said before, this feels more like a prison. But I have a 13 year old and I can't let her grow up without a father there. Hunched over and sweating at work, The young man we did this for had been terminated the day he came back.
She and others talk like this male desire for sex is some kind of strange thing ; anyone who did any reading round the subject, or simply applied common sense, would know that men and women think differently about these things. To me this speaks volumes about just how little she really cares. I have talked to him about it more times than i can keep track of. This may be want he needs to get the picture. It is harmful to us physically, emotionally, and spiritually and cannot and should not continue. I never wanted this but after all these years it is what it is. I put a dressing gown on and sat on the bed edge crying.
I touched her, begged her for sex —all to no avail. Sex outside of covenant is merely prostitution and sexual abuse. I watched as it took less than one minute after the first swing to put four men into critical care. Right now I am quite depressed. This is not as God intended.
And are you going to do something about it? I though try to enjoy my life as much as possible. When I imagine that he is likely just not into women, it still cuts like a knife and seems surreal, given the way he seems. Lucky It certainly sounds like you married a wonderful man, with whom you are not sexually compatable. I am have been alone 14 years now and hope one day to find someone loving and compatible one day. And it was my fault too that he was a 30 second man. In additional if a person is asexual which I agree is a real phenomenon then this must be disclosed upfront to the other partner if it id not then it is an unreasonable request done afterward.
It was a long time coming. But something happened in that surgery, his mind cleared. I tried to understand my husband! Well weeks went by, months went by, nothing not a word. His mother and fathers gift was even more horrible It included a wagon wheel with Rawhide straps set up in the front yard with the sign that that evening the community needed to come see the uppity slave get publicly whipped for his defiance There was also a 2000 dollar cleanup needed His mother was Taken was crying that she had given birth to him 45 years before had we turned him so much against us he would be this petty about it. I reasoned that if my wife was only engaging in sex to satisfy my carnal wants and not because it was benefiting her then this was sex that was not worth having.
I have been unable to get fully aroused and I just want to get it over with as fast as possible but it seems to drag on forever because I am just not into it. They dont know the only roar in our bed is snoring. You have to understand, these thoughts developed over many, many months. If you want that critical bond that builds lasting marriages, a healthy sex life is a major building block. As another party was due we met for the first time after texting and we tried to speak as much as possible without anyone getting suspicious , we laughed joked and she even let me peck her on the cheek in the smoke room when no one was around. All while I was expressing to her that our sex life was too few and too far between.